What I'm Doing Here

My name is Felicia, and I am currently working towards a degree in communication with a concentration in human sexuality.  I've been interested in studying sex for longer than I can remember, but I finally decided to make a career of it two years ago.  My life as a sex researcher started much younger than that though.  I didn't really have much in the way of a formal sex education when I was growing up.  My parent's divorced when I was young, and my dad was never someone you could really approach about sex.  My mom tried not to step on his toes and interfere too much with the way he wanted to raise me.  I still knew what I needed to know about my body when I needed to know it - menstruation, puberty, even contraception, but I didn't know really anything else about sex until I was old enough to pursue it on my own.

I also jumped schools just enough that I missed every sex ed course that was offered, which was probably only just one.  I was also able to opt out of physical education due to health issues, which may have altered my education.  I don't think it was a bad thing that I missed out on sex education in school though; thinking about it now, I might not have made it to where I am today if I was fed all of the lies and misconceptions that formal sex education has to offer.

And that is what I am here to take a stance against.  I believe everyone should have medically accurate, non-bias, and inclusive sex education.  We all deserve to know about out bodies; how marvelous they are, the pleasure they can bring us, and how to take care of them so they can keep taking care of us.  This valuable information is not something that I had readily accessible when I was growing up, and I know the same rings true for many other adolescents.  I want to be a resource for youth that don't have many other resources to turn to, and a voice in the movement that taught me everything I know today.

On top of talking about sex here, I will also be talking about relationships and some of the misconceptions that our society has placed upon them as well.  Just like sex has been shrouded in a cloak of secrecy due to its private nature, so have relationships.  And this secrecy has allowed some misconceptions regarding relationships the time and space to flourish.  I have personally been hurt by some of the misinformation floating around out there, and I have hurt other's due to it as well.  All of this has fueled my motivation to study relationships myself and speak out however I can to eliminate some of the secrecy surrounding them.  I believe that relationships are the most important aspect of our time here on this Earth, and that we should be able to manage them in a healthy way so that we can get the most out of them.

There may be some other topics that come up here as well, such as mental health, which I perceive as a vital aspect of maintaining healthy relationships.  This will be a place where I review some books, films, documentaries, and movies that are about sex or have large themes revolving around sexuality and go into detail about how those forms of media can have a larger societal influence on our understanding of human sexuality.  I will also be sharing some of my informal research on human sexuality that I have completed as a student.  No matter what I share here, if you have ever had a question about what your body is doing, this is your place.  This is a judgment free zone for everyone, regardless of your background, to explore your sexuality.

I hope you stick around!

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