Confessions of a Sex Geek

I don't have to tell you how much the world has changed in a matter of weeks.  We all know of the uncertainty we face.  We are at war with a virus we have yet to fully understand.  A lot of couples have had to make some impossible choices, and relationships are being put to the test.  Today, I would like to discuss the couples who have chosen to shelter in place together, either because they already lived together or because they did not want to face this storm alone. I have personally lived with my partner for 2.5 years.  We have lived in 2 apartments together.  We are no stranger to living together.  Despite that, being trapped in the home together for weeks has been hard.  We are used to going to our jobs, doctors appointments, friends houses.  Being the only face that either of us physically see for an extended period has definitely put a strain on our relationship.  I know that we aren't the only couple facing this right now, so I...

For those of you who don't know, I am disabled.  I live with a multitude of chronic illnesses, which have worsened significantly over the course of the last year.  On March 16th, 2020, I had a port placed in order to help manage the symptoms of my chronic illnesses.  Before we can get into the juicy details that you are all here for, I feel like it is important to provide some additional context on what my conditions are, what a port is, and why I needed to get one. Firstly, my primary condition is Hypermobile Ehler's Danlos Syndrome (hEDS).  This is a connective tissue disorder that affects the collagen and proteins in my joints and other connective tissues.  I experience frequent joint dislocations and subluxations in all of my primary and non primary joints.  My hips, my shoulders, knees, ankles, wrists, fingers, toes.  You name it, it comes out of place. HEDS does not just cause joint complications though, as connective tissues make up all ...

Freeform's show "The Bold Type" aired in 2016 and has just wrapped up its third season, which I just finished binge watching.  While I wait, rather impatiently, for the fourth season to come out, I thought I should open a conversation on all of the reasons why I love "The Bold Type" so much.  As a general warning, this post will contain moderate spoilers .  If you are not yet caught up with Season 3, read at your own risk. In case you did not just heed my warning and have no idea what "The Bold Type" is about, let me fill you in.  "The Bold Type" is about the lives of three BFFs navigating their jobs at Scarlet magazine, as well as love, relationships, and whole list of other struggles that many of us face on a daily basis.  "The Bold Type" is about the courage of three strong, brave women who know their strength and resilience, and about the power of friendship.  Jane, Sutton, and Kat can hold their own and can take care of thems...

There is a misconception that grooming only occurs in cases of child abuse or pedophilia.  While those instances are a common place to find grooming, it is also all too common in romantic relationships.  So how do you know if you, or someone in your life is being groomed, and what can you do to support someone who you know is being groomed. First of all, what is grooming?  Grooming is a tactic of manipulation purposely used by a manipulator to establish a false since of security for the target.  A manipulator will often buy their target gifts, plan elaborate dates, and supply compliments to make their target feel loved and supported.  Grooming often looks like dating, but it comes with a nasty twist.  Once the manipulator feels that the target is feeling secure in the relationship, they will begin to exhibit signs of visibly controlling or abusive behavior.  This behavior is introduced so gradually that it may often come across as normal.  The t...

Birth control has always been an issue for me, and it is an issue that many women need to face.  It can often feel like there's no information on birth control out there, and no resources to help you figure out what is the right option for you.  It can often feel like we're on this journey alone.  That's why in today's blog post I am going to compare two birth control options for you.  They are both IUDs, or intrauterine devices, named LiLetta and Kyleena.  If you don't recognize them, that's because they are on the newer side.  Kyleena is the newest one, and LiLetta has been available for a few years now.  They both aren't as mainstream as the most commonly heard of IUDs, Mirena and Paragard.  Today we'll be looking at how these types of birth control work, their side effects, and how you might be able to tell which one would be better for you. Let's start with LiLetta.  I've actually had this one for almost three years now.  When I...

I have always loved reading, and I have always been the type of person to insist on reading the book before watching the movie.  There have only been a few instances in which I have knowingly broken that rule, one of which was when "Love Simon" came out.  For those of you who don't know "Love Simon" is the movie adaptation for the young adult novel "Simon vs The Homo Sapiens Agenda," written by Becky Albertalli.  And, in case you really have been living under a rock for the past year, here's a brief summary.  It's a gay high school love story.  Now, if you didn't know that much, I suggest you stop reading here.  This review will contain spoilers .  If you have only watched the movie, and intend on still reading the book, I suggest you stop reading.  If you have only read the book and still need to watch the movie, seriously, for your own good, stop reading.   Come back once you have consumed all you want to of this book and movie world. ...